Urgent Advice: How to Handle Uncomfortable Dinner Blessings

UPDATE: Miss Manners offers immediate solutions for those uncomfortable with dinner blessings, addressing a growing concern at family gatherings. The issue arises when guests must hold hands during prayers after washing their hands, leading to potential sanitation concerns.

In a recent inquiry, a reader expressed frustration about the tradition of holding hands during blessings, stating, “Holding hands defeats the purpose of washing them.” The reader seeks guidance on managing this situation without offending fellow guests. Miss Manners provides a practical solution: wash hands before the prayer, hold hands during the blessing, and excuse yourself afterward to wash hands again, ensuring hygiene without raising eyebrows.

This advice comes as families gather for holidays and celebrations, making the question of etiquette particularly relevant. As gatherings resume post-pandemic, maintaining cleanliness while respecting traditions is a pressing topic for many.

In another related query, a reader voiced concerns about her husband’s adult sons who, despite being financially stable, have never offered to pay for dinners during family visits. The reader, who travels 3,300 miles round-trip twice a year for the birthdays of her stepsons, feels this behavior is selfish and inconsiderate.

Miss Manners suggests addressing the matter directly with her husband, emphasizing that open communication can lead to understanding. “The best solutions to your problem begin with a conversation with your husband,” she advises. This advice touches on the sensitive nature of family dynamics and the importance of addressing grievances constructively.

As families navigate complex relationships and traditions, Miss Manners’ insights are particularly timely. The focus on respectful communication and personal hygiene highlights the evolving nature of etiquette in today’s society.

For those looking for guidance on similar topics, Miss Manners encourages readers to share their concerns via her official website, ensuring that everyone can find answers to their pressing questions about social interactions.

Stay tuned for more updates on this evolving conversation about family etiquette and social norms, as these discussions continue to resonate widely during family gatherings and celebrations.